The Fine Print

First and foremost, I blog for myself. I know everyone says that, but really…when I started writing (back at my blogspot blog) and for a long time thereafter, no one read my blog but me.  And I was okay with that, as it truly started as a way for me to journal.  I had only read a couple of other blogs up to that time.  Soon, I read a lot of other blogs, but never commented.  When I finally started commenting on other blogs, I slowly became aware of the blogging community as it exists. I remember the shock of getting my first comment.  I remember my first regular commenter (Hi, Val!).

On Comments and Commenting

I read every comment, but I doubt anyone thinks I don’t. (Let’s be honest, I don’t get that many.)  However, I don’t respond to every comment. Here’s why. Some comments don’t seem to “require” a response and, frankly, when I read a blogger who responds to every. single. comment. it usually means that some (if not most) responses are a cursory and canned response (“Yes! Thank you!”) which wastes both their time and mine.  And makes me feel awkward.  Like I’m the friendless new kid in the middle school cafeteria who a teacher made some other kid talk to.  Sorry, not to seem judgy, but it’s kind of patronizing that anyone thinks I demand a response or my feelings will be hurt.  It often makes me stop commenting on those blogs (not reading, though), because I don’t want to get yet another awkward, generic response.

However, I don’t want to insult anyone, either.  I appreciate every single person who takes the time to read something that I’ve written and write a comment back. It’s hard to know what to do. When I do respond, should I respond in the comments or should I email the commenter? Let me know if you have an opinion on this.

And know this: if you comment on this blog, I read your blog.  Regularly.  I do.  I add you to my feedreader  to read what you have to say(and even click through as often as I can, ’cause true love is reading at the site), even if I don’t comment on every post. Because, as for commenting on other blogs?  I try to. I love it.  I love the sense of community that comes with blogging.  I love my friends inside the computer.  However, limited time means that often I do not have the time to comment, even when I have something brilliant to say.  Which, let’s be honest, is all the time. Right?

In general, my comment policy here is this:  Your comment does not have to be clean (I mean, I swear, dammit, how could I expect you not to?).  You do not have to agree with me (frankly, it’s sometimes more interesting if you don’t). But your comment must be hate-free and not trolling, link-baiting, or spamming.  If it’s deliberately disrespectful to me or other commenters, I might delete it.  Because, after all, this is my place.  And I do this to have fun and make friends in addition to expressing my thoughts.  Don’t like it?  Get your own blog.

For further information on my social networking philosophy, see my Twitter policy.


Or more accurately, the explanation of a lack thereof.  I used to keep a blogroll, but I could never keep up adding all the new-to-me blogs I keep finding and loving.  The easiest way to see who I read is to take a look at who I follow on Twitter.  To find those bloggers who I read but who do not tweet for whatever reason (even though they’d be brilliant at it — I’m looking at you, Metrodad!), I will often tweet links to posts of various bloggers I read when I think they’ve said something brilliant or funny.  You can also read this blog and see who I link to.


As for reviews and such? At this point I’ve never done a paid or compensated review. (Not that I didn’t appreciate the pitch, facial tics guy. I can see why you think that would be relevant here? Or not.)  It doesn’t mean that I wouldn’t, but so far, every commercial product I’ve posted about is something that I’ve used myself and of which I’ve generated an independent opinion.

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February Made Me Shiver
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1 Valerie January 1, 2010 at 12:40 pm

I love the fine print! I might need to steal err borrow some of it one day.

2 Steph August 23, 2010 at 12:03 pm

Okay, so your commenting policy makes sense to me, even though my own is to respond to all the comments. However, even I admit that there are times when there’s just no appropriate response, other than “hey, thanks!” But my own policy of doing this is mostly because if I take the time to leave a comment, I’m generally leaving something that’s more than “LOL! Great post!” so I want a response of some sort. An acknowledgment that I took time out of my busy life to say something meaningful, I guess.

God. Do I sound terrible? I fear I do, yet I can’t see myself changing any time soon. Don’t judge me.

3 Jen
August 24, 2010 at 10:24 am

I remember a long discussion we had about this on your old blog and I admire you for responding to every single comment. I feel like you do it differently than some of the other bloggers I read, because more than any other blog (and I mean that), yours has a conversation going on all the time. And that’s because you take the time to respond to every comment, in a real way. It definitely gives me something to think about.

4 Steph August 24, 2010 at 10:37 am

Do not change your policy based on mine, please. (Not that I think you would, but I’m just covering bases, I guess.) Let’s face it – I have a lot of free time on my hands. In the old days, I didn’t accept that other people had, you know, LIVES and things. lol. I think what it comes down to, for any of us who are doing this blogging thang, is to do what we like and what we feel is best for our particular “brand”. (God, how I hate that. It sounds so…pretentious. I’m not Kleenex. Or Jello. But I digress. As usual.)

I honestly think your comment policy is pretty rad. It was for sure something for me to ponder for the time when my comment section gets out of control. (Look at me, visualizing and whatnot. Heh.) But yes, you’re right – I very much view my blog as a place to have a conversation with myself just being a sort of topic-giver for the day, if that makes sense.

5 Steph August 24, 2010 at 10:40 am

P.S. That was the nicest thing anyone’s said to me all month. I’ll ride the giddy for a week. Thank you. :)

6 Jen
August 24, 2010 at 6:54 pm

Steph ~ You’re trying to kill me with all these comments, aren’t you?

7 Steph August 24, 2010 at 9:15 pm


Okay, no. I just have a big mouth. Figuratively. :grin: I’ll stop now.

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