6DPO

by Jen on September 11, 2007

in Teenagers make it look so easy

Six days past ovulation. I’m trying not to get my hopes up, but it’s hard not to. I’ll have an idea by this weekend if this cycle is a success.

Today I gave my work friend C a few supplies: a tube of Pre-Seed, a packet of Pre, six OPKs and what I had left of a bottle of EPO. This may be her last cycle TTC until next summer. She told me after her last cycle failed that this time she wasn’t going to get all worked up this cycle, worry about it, test, or anything. And then I have to go, like the drug dealer I am, and bring her all the tools of obsession. (Last cycle I brought her cheapie HPTs to test with, too.)

Over the weekend, my friend H told me about a baby girl she knew about that might be available for adoption. The Hubster and I haven’t discussed adoption since we were trying to get pregnant the first time, three years ago. At that point we had decided that if we weren’t pregnant by a certain month, we’d start the adoption process. We had decided against IVF, since we had limited money and it was no guarantee (I know too many women who’ve paid thousands for no success). My sister-in-law had done IVF unsuccessfully and was pursuing adoption when she — like all those stories we hear — got pregnant with her miracle baby naturally (to be followed by another miracle baby two and a half years later). But I asked her opinion on all of it and she said if she had it to do over again, she would’ve gone straight to adoption. In her words, “Pregnancy lasts nine months, Motherhood is forever.” She said that she assessed her goals and realized that parenting, not gestating, was what it was all about. And adoption is a lot closer to a guarantee of parenthood than IVF, especially if you are spending the same money.

We pursued information about this little girl for about a day, as we decided that we were very interested in her. What we discovered is that the situation is very complicated. The little girl (about 18 months old) has an infant brother who is in the process of being adopted by a couple who are also interested in adopting the little girl. Their father, who put them both into foster care, never bonded with the little boy, as he was a newborn when he was put into foster care, but did bond with the little girl. Right now the adoptive family is waiting for the boy’s adoption to be finalized before they pursue the little girl, because they’re worried that — due some sketchy behavior on the part of the birth father — both adoptions could end up canceled if they don’t set the course appropriately. I hope it works out for them, because I think that the siblings should be together.

But it made me realize that even though we already have a biological child, we’re still open to the idea of adoption. I have been thinking about it recently, but wondering what it would be like to have a family that was blended like that. (What I really should be thinking is, Duh, Jen, The Hubster has an adopted sister you’ve known for over twenty years, since she was a child. What’s that like?). Sometimes I just can’t see the forest for the trees.

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